Q & A: What can we do about my boyfriend's ex-wife's abusive live-in boyfriend?

Q.  My boyfriend shares joint custody of his two children with his ex-wife.  His ex-wife recently hooked up with a boyfriend who now lives with her, and there have been stories told by the children about abusive discipline by the live-in boyfriend.  What can my boyfriend do in order to protect his children?

A.  First off, who is telling you the stories about the children?  The children themselves or just spiteful naysayers?  If the children themselves are stating the abuse is happening, it’s time to call Child Protection Services.  Once they interview your boyfriend and the kids, they can help you get an Emergency Order against his ex-wife which would give your boyfriend full custody of the children until the issue goes to court.  Having CPS and child evaluators on your side will help tremendously, as will any police reports of domestic abuse that may have occurred at her household.  The more proof and people you have behind you both on this will help a lot, so get as many witnesses, evaluators and written documents together as you can to help make your case for custody strong.

Q & A: Fiance's ex-girlfriend gave up rights of daughter to her parents, can he get his daughter back?

Q. My fiancé’s ex-girlfriend gave birth to his daughter while he was not around, and so his name is not on her birth certificate.  His ex-girlfriend gave over legal custody of his daughter to her parents, and they are now the legal guardians.  My fiancé wants custody (joint, full, whatever he can get) of his daughter.  Without his name on the birth certificate, what are his rights and how can he get his daughter back?

A.  It’s important to know that regardless of the situation with the grandparents, the courts will typically side with a biological parent taking care of the child.  This being said, the first step that needs to be taken in this situation would be to have your fiancé prove that he is indeed the father, regardless of what is stated on the birth certificate.  This can be done with a simple paternity test, which your fiancé could go to court and request legally.

Once paternity is established, then he would go to court against the grandparents.  In a situation like this, he could probably go for full since it sounds as though his ex-girlfriend doesn’t want much to do with the child already and/or feels like an incompetent or irresponsible parent already (maybe she’s young?).  In addition, since he’s your fiancé, he may fare better in court once you were married, as he could fight that the child would be entering a two-parent situation, a stable household and a two-income family.

How the Fathers' Rights Protection System Benefits Everyone

I want to make something perfectly clear. I respect women. I wouldn't be where I am today without the love and support of the women I've known in various stages of my life, beginning with my mother. The work I do in helping you get custody of your children isn't about fighting women. It isn't a knock against motherhood. It's just about making sure that your kids have their father so that they don't grow up to be one of those scary statistics we've talked about before.

And you know something? A majority of the people that join my membership program and consult with me over the phone are women! These ladies purchased my Fathers' Rights Protection System or membership because the court system is so screwed up. They figured that if my approach works that it would help the men in their lives with their child support and visitation problems too.

The Fathers Rights Protection System is not only beneficial to fathers negotiating the legal system, any parent's rights can be compromised unjustly. Katie DeMuth is a mother who was in the exact situation that you are in: her custodial rights were in danger of being denied thanks to the lies of her spouse.

I was almost positive that my husband would gain the 'upper hand.' The Protection System told me what other people have done in similar situations. I copied their success methods, filled out the necessary paper work, stood before the judge, received a signed court order and all of this was accomplished in ONE day. I now realize that it doesn't have to be as complicated as we're all led to believe. With the knowledge presented in your system, I now understand exactly what the judge is looking for. I can prepare and feel confident to represent myself at my next hearing or can guide my attorney better if I should choose to get one.

I take all matters of parental rights very seriously. I have developed a system that helps any parent protect themselves and their children from injustice.

For more information on the Fathers' Rights Protection System, visit http://www.fathershelphotline.com or, if you are a woman seeking help for the man in your life (husband, brother, friend) with his fathers' rights issues, visit http://www.women4fathersrights.com for a free download!

Looking for a list of child abuse and child neglect laws and statutes in your state?

Look no futher!  Here is a wonderful resource for those of you that are putting together legal documentation on someone who is involved in child abuse or child neglect.  No matter what state you are in, you can check out this state statute lookup resource by ChildWelfare.gov--it is a great way to get the exact statutes and laws that protect children as far as who can report child abuse, what records can be made available for those investigating child abuse reports, etcetera.  Pass it on to anyone you might know who may need this for their pro se legal battles!

Also, there will soon be a new eBook from the National Brotherhood of Fathers' Rights--"A Fathers' Rights Guide to False Allegations of Abuse," which will cover the dos and don't's when falsely accused of child abuse, domestic abuse, or neglect.  It will be avialable soon through fathershelphotline.com!