Q & A: What can we do about my boyfriend's ex-wife's abusive live-in boyfriend?

Q.  My boyfriend shares joint custody of his two children with his ex-wife.  His ex-wife recently hooked up with a boyfriend who now lives with her, and there have been stories told by the children about abusive discipline by the live-in boyfriend.  What can my boyfriend do in order to protect his children?

A.  First off, who is telling you the stories about the children?  The children themselves or just spiteful naysayers?  If the children themselves are stating the abuse is happening, it’s time to call Child Protection Services.  Once they interview your boyfriend and the kids, they can help you get an Emergency Order against his ex-wife which would give your boyfriend full custody of the children until the issue goes to court.  Having CPS and child evaluators on your side will help tremendously, as will any police reports of domestic abuse that may have occurred at her household.  The more proof and people you have behind you both on this will help a lot, so get as many witnesses, evaluators and written documents together as you can to help make your case for custody strong.