Q & A: Can my boyfriend get custody of his child since her mom is in jail?

Q. My boyfriend’s ex has custody of his daughter, and she was recently put in jail for selling drugs to an undercover cop.  While she’s in jail, child protection services has stepped in and has given temporary custody of his daughter to his ex’s brother.  After she leaves jail, CPS states that since his daughter was not around when the drug transaction was occurring, his daughter would be returning to her mom for custody.  I’m assuming now is the time for my boyfriend to step in and get custody of his daughter, but how would he go about this now that CPS still feels that she will be a “fit parent” after she leaves jail?

A.  CPS will almost always attempt to get the kids back with the mother regardless of what she has done.  This is the prejudice that exists in the system against men and for mothers.  It is important that your boyfriend file a Petition seeking full custody and primary care of the child, either by filing a Petition To Establish Parentage, or a Petition for Modification to the existing orders.

Time is of the essence.  Move quickly.  CPS will do something called a dependency hearing in which they will take control of the child because the mother cannot and get that child with another family member or, hopefully, with the father.  It’s important to move quickly as the state can place the child in foster care as well.  I’m certain you don’t want this!